Or presence?


    Who decides between:

    • Letting your usual reaction patterns shred your chances for intimacy, or
    • Creating conscious interactions of love flowing in your heart and intimacies enriching your soul?


    Only you...... if you have the wits to do it.




  • The value of emotional reactivity is that it signals the necessity for emotional healing and adulthood initiation processes.


    - Clinton Callahan, Possibility Coach

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    Imagine not knowing that emotional reactivity comes in five flavors!

    1. For BUTTONS click HERE.
    2. For HOOKS click HERE.
    3. For TRIGGERS click HERE.
    4. For TRAUMAS click HERE.
    5. For VOICES click HERE.

    We are saying that it is possible for you to IMMEDIATELY detect which kind of reaction you are having and to respond appropriately.


    Once you know what is up for you, the way to proceed becomes obvious.


    Choosing healing and transformation instead of indulging in reactivity can create an astonishing difference in the quality of your life.


    In Possibility Management we use the term 'Box' to refer to your automatic psychological defense strategy that stands as a giant filter between your Being and the world . Your Box determines everything you can perceive and everything you can express.

    Buttons are designed into the surface of your Box as survival strategy reaction patterns. At first they were probably useful for your survival. But now you can make more effective and intelligent decisions about how to handle possible threats.

    Buttons are automatic reactions. They get pushed - even unintentionally - by another Box that has a different shape than your Box (different rules, habits, assumptions, expectations, decisions, etc.)

    When you are with people who irritate you, your Buttons get pushed.

    Anybody can push your Buttons.

    Watch the Gremlins of children push the Buttons on their parents' Boxes over and over, just for entertainment.

    The way to notice that your reactivity is coming from one of your Buttons being pushed is to use non-judgemental Self Observation. You split off a piece of your attention to notice what you are noticing, and also to notice what you are noticing with.

    Sooner or later you will find the Button by recognizing the repeated emotional reactivity in the same circumstances. When you notice it, write it down immediately in your Beep! Book. Each Button you find and deactivate is key to a treasure chest of a more wonderful life.
    STRATEGY: The way to deactivate a Button is to redesign that part of your Box. Redesigning your Box can take place through any number of authentic adulthood initiatory processes, but all of them have one element in common: your Box will go through a Liquid State while its shape is reordering.

    If there is no Liquid State, there is no change.

    You are designed to redesign your Box and change its purpose from Defensive to Expansive ever since you were 18 years old, but each time it can feel like the 'Death and Resurrection Show'.

    Box redesign processes are provided in Possibility Labs and during Possibility Coaching Chair Processes.


    Hooks are darts of insult or implication sent by one Gremlin to another Gremlin as a stimulus to initiate an emotional reaction that starts a Gremlin Feeding Frenzy.

    Your best tool and ally for detecting Hooks being sent at you is your own Gremlin. You can give him (or her...) the job of watching out for Hooks being sent at you and keeping you Unhookable.

    No one can become Unhookable for you.

    More interestingly, no one can stop you from becoming Unhookable.

    A Hook is detectable by its purpose. Every thought, word, and deed is accompanied by a purpose, even if that purpose is unconscious. You can easily detect the purpose of each action as it is made using your Purpose Sniffer.

    The primary procedure for vanishing Hooks is to to keep your Center, use your Sword Of Clarity to stay in contact while letting the Hook slide by, and holding up your Disk Of Nothing so the Hook does not go into your Box or Gremlin but rather vanishes into the void.

    The other primary way is to keep your Gremlin on a short leash, put him on a conscious Gremlin Food diet program which includes giving him radically responsible jobs to do for you that your Box is too afraid to do, and do not let him send out any Hooks at other Gremlins...


    A 'Trigger Phrase' is something you say to yourself that opens the front door to your all night café so any hungry entity who happens to be wandering by can come in and devour the life energy out of your Being. Typical Trigger Phrases can be something like: "No one sees me." Or, "They get rewarded and I do not." Or, "I am excluded again." Or, "What I offer is not good enough." Etc...

    After you say the Trigger Phrase to yourself and the entities are sucking out your life energy you feel depressed, tired, weak, and completely uninspired. You do not feel much like seeing anybody at all. You would rather be left alone in your bed for a long time.

    This listless, lifeless, loveless condition may last for a few days up to a few weeks, until the entities get full and drift away in a stupor. That is when you suddenly wake up. Within an hour or so you get your energy back and you wonder, "Hmmm... What was that? Oh, well. It probably won't happen again..." And it does not happen again, until you say another Trigger Phrase to yourself.

    Feeding entities with your precious life energy is a common survival strategy that works by disempowering yourself. When you are weak and confused, you do not pose a challenge to anyone. You are no longer dangerous, so they do not have to kill you, and, Voila! You are safe.

    This could have been helpful in your childhood, but after 18 years of age this strategy is destroying your life.

    The way out is to become a Trigger Hunter. Complete instructions for becoming a Trigger Hunter are given in S.P.A.R.K.135 and on the Trigger Hunter website.

    No one can become a Trigger Hunger for you.

    More interestingly, no one can stop you from becoming a Trigger Hunter.



    The concept of being 'retraumatized' can only make sense if you use the Old Thoughtmap of Feelings where there are three negative, bad, or dangerous feelings (anger, sadness, and fear) and only one 'good' feeling: joy.

    The mind can understand concepts that have no relationship to reality.

    Each of us has incompletely experienced and expressed emotions from all the things that happened to us in our past while living in a feelings phobic culture, mind centered culture. These Emotional Wounds are valuable gateways for bringing new parts of your Being to life. You can leave behind the identity of being a 'wounded person' through authentic adulthood initiatory processes and emotional healing processes such as those delivered in Possibility Labs and Possibility Coaching.

    If you experience physical symptoms that are not fully healed through physical doctors (MDs), energetic healers, or psychologists, perhaps it is time to heal the emotional elements. Then you might want to explore what is possible through the Feelings Practitioners.

    Completing Incomplete Emotions


    It is true that Buttons, Hooks, Triggers, and Traumas usually include a verbal component that you could call 'voices in your head'. However, each kind of voice comes with its own characteristic telltale signs that indicate which sort of Reactivity the Voices originate in. In addition, there is a kind of pervasive background Reactivity originating in Voices alone.


    First let's describe how voices might accompany the other forms of Reactivity:






    The additional Voices that we are referring to hear are not your own voice. They are voices from external authority figures that were dominant during the time you were assembling the components of your childhood survival strategy (your Box). For you Box to function properly, it had to take into account the existence of these authoritative voices in your environment. The easiest and most common way to do this is to incorporate these external voices into your Box and make their presence normal. You build these voices into your Box design, similarly to the way you built your Buttons into your Box design. Then, as long as you hear these voices in your environment, your survival strategy functions. Eventually your circumstances change. You move away from parents, caretakers, and schoolteachers and the external sources of these voices fade away. Not to worry! Your Box takes over and keeps repeating the Voices to you to assure you that your defense strategy can still function and you continue to survive. These are the Voices we are talking about. Your Box conjures them up out of the Parent Ego State of your past and the Voices praise you or blame you, as was normal then. But the actual sources of these voice are long gone, your circumstances have changed, and you have learned other ways to take care of yourself more consciously so that you are actually able to live and need not remain in mere survival.

    But how do you get rid of these pesky Voices? They are like little vampire bats - ghosts in the machine - fluttering around your head trying to get you to believe in them so they can bite into your neck, suck out a bit of your life energy, and diminish your power so you survive.

    The way to get rid of them is with your Voice Blaster. This is a handy tool that has been at the back of your Toolbelt ever since your were born. Why haven't you used it before? Because no one ever told you about it before.

    But we are telling you about it now.

    Now is the time.

    From now on, for the rest of your life, whenever one of these Voices comes fluttering around you, you can draw out your Voice Blaster, aim it, pull the trigger, and put your Voice Blaster back in its holster, before you even touch your Voice Blaster. You are that fast. The Voice Blaster never misses its mark, and never runs out of blast power. From now on, the only conversation you ever need to have with a Voice is, "Blam! Pang!"

    For more information about using your Voice Blaster, please visit the Voice Blaster website.



    When your Physical Body experiences certain imbalances such as low blood sugar (hunger), weird hormonal combinations during your period, protein deficiency, lack of water, not enough sleep, stresses from over exertion, jet lag, lack of exercise, illness, or accident, etc., you may experience emotional reactivity.


    Less visible forces can also cause Physical Body imbalances such as your horoscope (both Western and Chinese), the season of the year, culture shift - as in traveling suddenly from one culture to another, the phase of the moon, your biorhythms, change of seasons, change in atmospheric pressure, temperature or humidity, change of diet, allergins in the air, etc.


    The clue that you might be experiencing Physical Imbalance Reactivity is that the reactivity comes on sideways, that is, from no apparent stimulus. The reactivity appears more gradually than with Buttons, Hooks, Triggers, Traumas, or Voices, but not always.


    Some people when they get hungry, for example, turn from civilized geniuses into raving monsters within a few seconds. Is this you?

    If none of the other Emotional Reactivity sources seem to make sense, assume the source is Physical Imbalance, then stop everything else until you have taken better care of your physical self.


    More often than most people realize, physical symptoms do not change even after treatments from:

    • Intellectual healers (psychiatrists, psychologists, psychotherapists)
    • Physical doctors (Medical Doctors, allopathic medicine)
    • Energetic healers (aura healers, chakra healers, meridian healers, energy healers)
    • Archetypal healers (spiritual healers, light healers, )

    Failure to heal can occur when the root cause is not addressed, for example, when the wound or imbalance exists in the Emotional Body. What is required then are Emotional body healers. These are the Feelings Practitioners. Incomplete emotions, suppressed emotions, mixed emotions, or emotions stored where they should not be can all cause serious physical imbalances if untreated. Emotional Body healing processes and certification in the emotional body healing arts are available through Feelings Practitioner programs.



    NOTE: To understand more about Ego States please leap over to http://egostates.mystrikingly.com.

    In short, during your daily life, you shift obliviously between your 6 Ego States. If you do not navigate consciously to serve Bright Principles then your unconscious nature prevails and you serve Shadow Principles.

    You are designed to become aware of what you are up to and why.

    Not gaining Choice about which Ego State you are feeding has dire consequences.

    These distinctions may help you take back your life:

    1. PARENT EGO STATE Reactivity includes judgement, blame, control, ridicule, praise, manipulation, false authority, domination
    2. CHILD EGO STATE Reactivity includes panic, neediness, complaining, powerlessness, victimhood, adaptiveness, irresponsibility
    3. GREMLIN EGO STATE Reactivity includes revenge, deception, betrayal, being right, intrigue, gossip, superiority, competition, greed, lying
    4. DEMON EGO STATE Reactivity includes withholding, depression, hopelessness, listlessness, raging, going berserk, tiredness
    5. ADULT EGO STATE Capable interaction emerges in a Centered, Bubbled, GroundedPresence with a Minimized NOW, a Conscious Will, and a Conscious Purpose. Your Adult Ego State is the only useful Doorway to your Archetypal Ego State where Archetypal 5-Body Intimacies are possible.
    6. ARCHETYPAL EGO STATE Human beings are designed to directly interact with the archetypal forces of the Universe on a moment-to-moment basis. We can use archetypal forces to interact with others in archetypal spaces, and to creatively collaborate to deliver the services of our Archetypal Lineages in our projects and in our daily lives.



    EXPERIMENT REACTIVI.01 Go Possibility Couchsurfing

    After being in Expand The Box training, register yourself at http://possibilitycouchsurfing.mystrikingly.com and plan your next journey so that you can visit several Possibility Managers from different cities, states, countries and cultures. Before you begin your travels, explain to your host that you are doing Experiment REACTIVI.01 from StartOver.xyz and that your intention is to avoid ALL reactivity from Buttons, Hooks, Triggers, Traumas, or Imbalances while you are visiting with them. Make a Pirate Agreement with them to help each other do whatever it takes so you fulfill your intention. Write down your Self Observations in your Beep! Book.