WHY ARE YOU REACTIVE? BECAUSE
FOUR OF YOUR SIX EGO STATES
THRIVE ON REACTIVITY
NOTE: To understand more about Ego States please pop over to http://egostate.mystrikingly.com.
In short, during your daily life, you shift obliviously between your 6 Ego States. If you do not navigate consciously to serve Bright Principles then your unconscious nature prevails and you serve Shadow Principles.
You are designed to become aware of what you are up to and why.
Not gaining conscious Choice about which Ego State you are feeding has dire consequences.
These distinctions may help you take back your life:
Living in the distinction between
Proactive Presence and Reactive Emotionality
requires actual practice, above and beyond mere understanding.
It can help you to know that:
No one can practice for you.
More interestingly, no one can stop you from practicing.
Since the outcome of each practice effort is unknown, each practice session is an Experiment.
Becoming a 'Reactivity Experimenter' may require you to Shift Identity.
Become a Reactivity Experimenter
Matrix Code: REACTIVI.01
If you are not an Experimenter in relation to Reactivity, then you have no Gap between being Reactive and any other possible way of being.
If you have no Gap then you are like a piece of driftwood in the ocean, thrown helplessly about by the waves, rather than a catamaran sailboat able to skim across the waves in any direction you please because you have added a rudder and a keel onto your shape, and you have practiced handling the ropes that control the set of your sails. Without those changes, a catamaran is just a piece of driftwood! You can make these structural changes in yourself through Experimenting.
NOTE: Using a capital 'E' in the term 'Experimenter' means
This Experiment is: for three times each day, all week long, whenever you see your reflection in a mirror, a store window, etc., you stop and look straight in your own eyes for 60 seconds and shift identity by saying out loud (yes, out loud), "Hello Reactivity Experimenter! Hey! I see an amazing Reactivity Experimenter there! Look world! Here is a new Reactivity Experimenter! My Reactivity Experimenting begins NOW. And NOW. And NOW... Even looking in my eyes and saying this stuff to myself is being a Reactivity Experiment!" etc.
You will can be sure you are successfully doing this Experiment of Shifting Identities when you will feel a little GAP open up between your two identities! The Gap is a space of no identity between your 'Box-identified / Box-defending IDENTITY', and your 'I am a Reactivity Experimenter with Nonlinear Possibility' IDENTITY. Both are identities. Neither is right or wrong, good or bad. What you get by shifting identity is access to the Gap between the two identities. This Gap is wildly useful.
(If you do not experience an Energetic Gap opening up inside of you between the two identities, IN WHICH THERE IS NO IDENTITY, then you are merely thinking about shifting identity but you are not actually shifting identity to Reactivity Experimenter...)
See how long (in seconds, in minutes, maybe even in hours) you can keep the Gap open when you are identified as, "I am a Reactivity Experimenter with a Gap," rather than being identified only as, "I am the Reactivity. There are no other options. The Reactivity is the only reality."
This is such a very important beginning.
You can do this. You can make and hold this Gap in identity for yourself.
No one can do this for you.
No one can stop you from doing this.
An entirely new (and more interesting...) world awaits you when you can create and hold a Gap In Identity - as well as your new identity as a Reactivity Experimenter - as a new Split Attention quality of awareness in your ongoing daily life.
Become Reactive On Purpose
Matrix Code: REACTIVI.02
Dedicate one or more of your online-or-offline Team meetings (for example, your Study Group, S.P.A.R.K. Experiment Circle, Research Team, Possibility Team, Whole Permaculture Team, Rage Club, Fear Club, 3 Cell, Safe Circle, Riftwalker Team, Edgeworker Team, Growness Team, Trainer Path Team, Whole Permaculture Team, New Refugees Circle, Village Seeds Circle, Earth Guardians Circle, Village Weavers Circle, Evolutionaries Circle, Gameworld Builders Circle, Possibility Coaches Circle, Possibility Mediators Circle, Possibility Psychologists Circle, Memetic Engineers Circle, Magus Training Circle, etc. ) to doing the following Experiment in order to gain more practical awareness about Reactivity:
Practice Having Unfair Conversations
Matrix Code: REACTIVI.03
We define a 'FAIR CONVERSATION' to be when both you and your conversation partner are grounded in the Adult Ego State.
In a Fair Conversation you have your Parts collected, your Survival Strategies made optional, and your available resources available in a Centered, Grounded, Bubbled, small NOW Present to contribute. You have your Attention, your Conscious Will, your Nonlinear imagination, your Unreasonability, your 7 Core Skills, your 13 Tools, your Conscious Gremlin, your Bright Principles, your Archetypal Lineage. Then you creatively collaborate in a Winning Happening game, often by Negotiating 5 Body Intimacy Journeys.
We define an 'UNFAIR CONVERSATION' to be when one of the conversation partners is NOT in the Adult Ego State.
Where are they if they are not in the Adult Ego State? They have so many channels to choose from!
We define an 'INSANE CONVERSATION' to be when neither conversation partner is grounded in the Adult Ego State. This circumstance can only manifest as Low Drama Armageddon, a Gremlin feeding frenzy... in other words, a war.
If you are ever in any kind of emotional, energetic, intellectual, or physical war, this is what is going on.
What can you do then? Take the space into breakdown.
How can you do that? The answer to this is Wizard technology, but I will tell you anyway, just in case you are a Wizard and you need to know:
Detect The Sensations Of Reactivity
Matrix Code: REACTIVI.04
Immediately identify and name it out loud by saying "This is a Low Drama," in the instant any situation enters the domain of Low Drama. Use your Low Drama Detector (Rrrrrrrrrr! Rrrrrrrr!) to publicly identify Low Dramas:
If the distinctions of Radical Responsibility, Low Drama/High Drama, Gremlin, Emotions/Feelings, the Map of Reactivity, evolution of consciousness, etc. are not solidly established in the Context of the Gameworld, then it is a Gremlin Gameworld.
What are YOU doing there? Take it into breakdown.
Use Your Sword Of Clarity: Set Adult Context
Matrix Code: REACTIVI.05
If is not an Adult or Archetypal conversation, then it is a Reactivity conversation.
Then no Fair conversation possible.
The only conversation to have in a Reactivity Space is these 3 Questions. We suggest you memorize them:
Go Possibility Couchsurfing
Matrix Code: REACTIVI.06
After being in Expand The Box training, register yourself at http://possibilitycouchsurfing.mystrikingly.com and plan your next journey so that you can visit several Possibility Managers from different cities, states, countries and cultures. Before you begin your travels, explain to your host that you are doing Experiment REACTIVI.05 from StartOver.xyz and that your intention is to avoid ALL Reactivity from Buttons, Hooks, Triggers, Traumas, Voices, or Imbalances while you are visiting with them. Make a Pirate Agreement with them to help each other do whatever it takes so you fulfill your intention. Write down your Self Observations in your Beep! Book.
Practice Exchanging Emotional Healing Processes With Your Team
Matrix Code: REACTIVI.07
One of the most amazing possibilities of regularly participating in online-or-offline Team meetings (such as Study Group, S.P.A.R.K. Experiment Circle, Research Team, Possibility Team, Whole Permaculture Team, Rage Club, Fear Club, 3 Cell, Safe Circle, Riftwalker Team, Edgeworker Team, Growness Team, Trainer Path Team, Whole Permaculture Team, New Refugees Circle, Village Seeds Circle, Earth Guardians Circle, Village Weavers Circle, Evolutionaries Circle, Gameworld Builders Circle, Possibility Coaches Circle, Possibility Mediators Circle, Possibility Psychologists Circle, Memetic Engineers Circle, Magus Training Circle, etc. ) is for a period of from 2 to 4 weeks, arrange with a small sub-Team of 4 or 5 co-members that WHENEVER an emotion arises, you immediately call up 2 of them so they can Navigate the appropriate Emotional Healing Process for you.
What helps both you and them be more skilled and prepared to benefit from Emotional Healing Process includes:
Nothing will substitute for your own healing and personal development. No one can do it for you. No one can stop you from doing it. Yes... it involves doing something different.
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